I don’t even know where to start because I am so hurt, and I feel like I am about to lose myself. My long-term relationship ended just a month ago, and I feel like my whole years of existence instantly became a waste of my entire life. I have been with my ex for over twelve years, and it’s quite a long time. We were supposed to get married a couple of months from now. But unfortunately, our relationship came to an end right before my eye.
It was so sudden when my ex told me that he has completely fallen out of love. It was confusing since we already talked about our future together. He explained that there is no cheating or third party involved, and everything was plainly about faded feelings that he didn’t expect to happen. But I don’t buy that. I mean, there should have to be a reason, and that particular one should have to be someone I don’t know. No person will wake up one day and tell their partner that they don’t love them anymore while everything was already planned for the future.
Knowing myself, I don’t easily give in to relationship issues. As much as possible, I would try and find a way to work things out. That was somehow the reason why our relationship made it through those years. So, as an in-love woman who finds positivity in everything, I tried to salvage it. I even allowed myself to look stupid in front of others because I was in a desperate situation. But my ex made up his mind and completely threw everything in the bin.
I was so devastated that I felt like blaming the world for it. It was a situation that pushed me to hurt myself. I even thought about suicide. But life has a complex way of showing you that things can still be okay. Thankfully, I immediately understand the importance of moving on and facing things forward. So, I traveled with a broken heart.
Be In The Present
At first, I thought traveling is as ordinary as the coping strategies that I once tried before. But the severity of my emotional and mental state was too hard to handle as it already affected my overall health. Physical manifestations such as headaches, fatigue, nausea, loss of appetite, and insomnia post-breakup were the ones I was constantly dealing with. Not to mention the depression, anxiety, and panic attacks that disrupt my daily function.
Some people say I shouldn’t travel while broken-hearted because it would be impossible to find myself while experiencing a difficult emotional and mental situation. But that was the opposite. Traveling allowed me to be in the present, which means it made me embrace the pain and agony from my broken relationship. Traveling somehow showed me the other side of the moment. It made me learn to cope with the discomfort of an emotional and mental dilemma as I continue to break from the usual routines I do every day.
Traveling became so important in my healing as it continuously helps me restore the lost balance I once had. The stress and anxiety that the breakup brought into my life were all I can think of. So as much as possible, I have to re-establish my confidence to own my independence back. I need to trust my intuition to get myself out of physical, mental, and emotional trouble.
The Best Distraction
The best thing I like about traveling is its offered distraction. As I focused more on what’s in front of me, I was able to gain quite a lot of perspective during the breakup recovery process. Instead of wallowing in obsessive negative thoughts, traveling made me pay attention to the necessity of overcoming heartache without losing myself to the unbearable drama caused by it.
Traveling removed me away from the familiar scenes that I often experience every day. It introduced me to a place where new encounters and beginnings are made. The distraction that traveling created promotes a significant distance that was useful for self-growth and development. It allowed me to have a break and get my mind out of the bothersome emotional pain. It helped me gain new friends and meet new people across different countries. Traveling made me realize the importance of communication. It opened me to a comfortable way of trying new things.
I strived hard to find a way to maneuver the choppy waves of my heartbreak. Fortunately, traveling was the best thing that helped me find the strength to move forward. It made me appreciate life more than ever. Though I still have many heartaches that I need to get through with, I know I can be better someday. I believe that traveling will contribute more good things to my overall well-being recovery.